Family Court Protest 10/18/2019

The court expects children to “have frequent, continuing, and meaningful relationship with the other parent.”

12 problems with Kerry Messer’s Version of Lynn’s Case

Read about them here as I gear up for Lynn’s prayer vigil. #JusticeForLynn

Lynn Messer Public Prayer Vigil, July 8, 2019

Please make plans to attend a prayer vigil for Lynn Messer as we ask God for answers, truth, and #JusticeForLynn. Please share on social media, church prayer-chains, and with friends. Thank you.

Pedophile or Molester?

Here are the differences between pedophiles and molesters. The one thing they have in common: they don’t change.

Abusers, Denial, and 10 Tips From Their Playbook

In light of the R. Kelly headlines: Read the different ways abusers react when confronted and study their team playbook. Should you believe them? Is letting them off the hook showing grace…after all, aren’t grace and forgiveness biblical concepts?

Emotional abuse checklist

30 question checklist of less talked about signs of emotional abuse. Many churches teach that men are over women in every aspect of life which leads to abusive, angry and controlling men taking toxic liberties with power. Is this you or someone you know?

Happy New Year: You can do this!

Encouragement and validation to start the new year. If you know someone who can benefit from being understood in the middle of a difficult marriage; please pass this on!

The 2 sides of abusive men

Number of people per minute who experience intimate partner violence in the U.S.: 24 Number of workplace violence incidents in the U.S. annually that are the result of current or past intimate partner assaults: 18,700 Number of women in the U.S. who report intimate partner violence: 1 in 4 Number of women who are killedContinue reading “The 2 sides of abusive men”

Lynn Messer Update November Election

Lynn Messer disappeared July 8, 2014. We now know that Lynn has been deceased the entire time and I have been told by law enforcement multiple times through the years that Kerry Messer, her husband, has not been cleared in the investigation surrounding Lynn’s death.  Kerry is a Missouri state lobbyist who represents family, homeschooling,Continue reading “Lynn Messer Update November Election”

Hope lost in a difficult marriage?

Life is hard, and life married to an angry, controlling spouse seems impossible. Without realizing it you withhold hope as an area in which you allow God access. Hopelessness is an easy place to arrive when talking to counselors, doctors, domestic violence, and advocates for women in abusive marriages, but mainly after praying for yearsContinue reading “Hope lost in a difficult marriage?”

Toxic Tuesday: Emotional Roller Coaster

FYI: I’ve shortened the articles for quick readability. 2-3 minutes!

Toxic Tuesday: Traumatic bonding

    Abuse comes in many forms and knows no boundaries. 1 in 4 women will experience domestic abuse during her lifetime and more than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes every year. *Men can also be the victim of abuse, but my ministry is mainly to women so I address myContinue reading “Toxic Tuesday: Traumatic bonding”

Shanann Watts case: 20 reasons abuse stays hidden and can lead to death

The last time I wrote I gave you my observations on the Shanann Watts case; specifically my thoughts on the husband’s behavior in interviews.  *Disclaimer: Abuse crosses all genders, socioeconomic statuses, nationalities, tones of skin, and religions. I minister to women and therefore I use the term woman in most of my writings. Allow meContinue reading “Shanann Watts case: 20 reasons abuse stays hidden and can lead to death”

Rally Outside SBC Annual Meeting Brings Abuse to Light

DALLAS, TX – June 5, 2018 – Discussing and responding to the epidemic of abuse within Protestant Christianity’s largest denomination has long been overdue. A rally to outline the prevalence of abuse and its enablement within the Southern Baptist Convention will be held at the SBC Annual Meeting in Dallas, Texas, on Tuesday, June 12th.Continue reading “Rally Outside SBC Annual Meeting Brings Abuse to Light”

For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 5

  Read Part 1  here…  Part 2 here…  Part 3 here…  Part 4 here…  You, Lord, hear the desire of the afflicted;     you encourage them, and you listen to their cry,  defending the fatherless and the oppressed,     so that mere earthly mortals     will never again strike terror. Psalm 10:17-18 (NIV) Paul’s words to husbands, “love yourContinue reading “For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 5”

For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 4

Part 4 is a continuation of a series on what scripture has to say about a woman’s worth and role. Read Part 1  here…Part 2 here…Part 3 here   Let’s consider Abigail from I Samuel 25. We’ll study her a bit more because we are talking about angry, controlling, abusive men and Abagail was married toContinue reading “For your consideration: A woman’s role…biblically; Part 4”

Headline: Abused women need to stay and pray

If you are in an unsafe situation, please know that more than God hates divorce, He hates that you are being abused. God approves of you leaving and finding safety. In the margin of this website you will find links to help you decide if you are or are not safe; as well as, links to help you leave safely, or stay safely in the relationship while keeping a sound mind and a healthy heart.

Escalation of abuse led to murder

Here is one more story of a woman who was living under verbal and emotional abuse.  After 25 years she tried to leave; unsuccessfully. He followed her and killed her. Here is a fact you rarely hear, but it’s true. Abusers don’t get better. Abuse escalates with time.   From the Tallahassee Democrat: Karl Etters,Continue reading “Escalation of abuse led to murder”

A Case Against Abused Women: Part 3

Here is the continuation on how an abuser treats his target in the privacy of their home. It has nothing to do with theology or gender roles! Rehabilitation for the abuser is rare. I’ve never heard of it.

A Case Against Abused Women: Part 2

Read part 1 here…   I know this makes many people uncomfortable. I know there are those who believe I am shaming the church and bringing harm to the name of Jesus. I’m confident that Jesus wants us to shine light in the dark places and bring truth and critical thinking to the table. MoreContinue reading “A Case Against Abused Women: Part 2”

Saeed Abedini Update March 2018

  Saeed Abedini, former husband of Naghmeh (Abedini) Panahi, is once again making the headlines. He violated a current court ordered no contact and was subsequently arrested. Read the Idaho Statesman article here… Saeed’s current Facebook posts tell of his return from a trip to Turkey where he met up with Nasim, the woman SaeedContinue reading “Saeed Abedini Update March 2018”

A Case Against Abused Women: Part 1

It is my heart and passion to speak truth to hurting women, and to educate the church on domestic abuse because it is in our midst.

Listen…to her objectified heart

My friend has been to college, worked in corporate America, considers herself to be a strong woman, and is outgoing and friendly; so to meet her you would never guess this is her home life, or her struggle.

Toxic Tuesday: Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

Even the most well trained counselor can have a difficult time discerning between the two; after all, wolves are experts at deceit. Here are 3 ways to spot a wolf. Disclaimer: Usually only family members know the truth.

Who Is Killing American Women? Their Husbands And Boyfriends, CDC Confirms.

This is a timely study and a sobering reminder.

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage

Emotionally destructive marriages are a problem in our churches. Do you know what one looks like?

Naghmeh Abedini: How Do We Respond? Part 3

There is scriptural precedence for blame not being split down the middle. This is a point we all need to understand when it comes to marital problems.

Toxic Tuesday: How to Love a Woman in a Destructive Marriage

In C.S. Lewis’s The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, no one believes Lucy when she tells them she has found an entire new country… there are only three logical possibilities: either Lucy is lying, she has gone mad, or she is telling the truth. Lucy was never a liar nor had she gone mad. Not only that, but the Professor asks them which one of the two children (Edmund or Lucy) was most likely to tell the truth. Lucy was more likely to tell the truth. A new perspective had developed. This perspective is what is sadly missing in the lives of so many people surrounding abused women.

Toxic Intervention

Make a list of applicable concerns, grievances, infidelities, hurtful behaviors or possible mental illnesses. Your goal is to bring the person to repentance, restore the relationship and provide emotional healing.

What Would Jesus Do in a Toxic Relationship?

At times I felt as though God held my hand as I skimmed the surface of hell begging and pleading with my person to leave their sin, make things right, do the hard thing, seek help, choose their family and their God; not their messed up life and their vocation.

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