Toxic Tuesday: The Great Porn Experiment

Porn alters the brain, but
if/when you stop using porn the brain can heal over time.

Why Men Don’t Change

Source: Why Men Don’t Change I’ve been a reader of Gary Thomas’s books for several years and I’m always thankful for his spiritual insight and practical applications. This article will be helpful to many of my readers who are in difficult marriages, or know a friend or loved one in a difficult marriage. The difficultyContinue reading “Why Men Don’t Change”

Naghmeh Abedini’s Leaked Letter

Do you believe her? Naghmeh Abedini, wife of imprisoned for his faith Pastor Saeed claims she has been silent about the abuse she suffered from him.

Toxic Tuesday: Covert or Overt Narcissist

If you think along the lines of cult leaders and world dictators you can begin a list of Who’s Who Among Narcissistic Personality Disorder. In my opinion we currently have narcissists in the highest level of office in more than one major world power. Another likely narcissist is running for president and has built his much of his empire preying on the poor.

Why I Chose A Toxic Husband; and He Me

I was recently asked if I received counseling before, during or after my divorce from my narcissistic, delusional, abusive, sex addicted, first husband; who was also a pastor. This was followed up with an inquiry of what I learned. Here are some details of my answers. Yes! Yes, I went to counseling…for several years IContinue reading “Why I Chose A Toxic Husband; and He Me”

Toxic Tuesday: Learn 4 Simple Phrases For Setting Boundaries

“She dresses herself with strength.” Proverbs 31:17 There is a way to remain strong and to thrive despite interacting with a difficult person. It isn’t easy because when you’re in the middle of relational turmoil, or are receiving a verbal lashing, it can be challenging to keep your thoughts straight.  Thinking quickly typically does notContinue reading “Toxic Tuesday: Learn 4 Simple Phrases For Setting Boundaries”

5 Indicators: A Jerk or a Wicked Heart? There is a Difference

Here are five indicators that you may be dealing with an evil heart rather than an ordinary sinful heart. If so, it requires a radically different treatment approach. Jekyll and Hyde. Wolves in sheep’s clothing. Just a jerk or evil?

Toxic Tuesday: Good Parents ask the Right Questions at the Right Time

Here are a few questions I have learned to ask over the years. I’ve been known to ask these questions after play dates, youth group, extracurricular outings and even after church on Sundays. I don’t ask every question after each encounter and I don’t question each activity. I ask these questions so casually that I don’t know if my kids are aware of my motives.

Toxic Tuesday Guest Post: Dealing with Toxic Family Members, Part 4

Everybody’s imperfect. If you’re putting the weight of perfection on any human relationship; it will become toxic. You’re going to create even in the best of relationships, expectations that can never be met.

Toxic Tuesday: Lack of Self-Control

      They hate you because they hate Jesus in you. “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first.” John 15:18 (NIV) They cannot tolerate your calmness in the storm, your resolve to listen only to your Savior in trust and obedience, and your ability to not allow their arrowsContinue reading “Toxic Tuesday: Lack of Self-Control”

Toxic Tuesday: Narcissistic Parents Part 3

Remember, God trumps your earthly parent. He is the Master. He is the REAL parent, the one who “subcontracted” the role to your earthly parents for a season. If you are His servant, you belong to Him. Be wise about dealing with your NPDer, but don’t fear them. You are in Your God-Daddy’s Arms. To the extent that He directs you to meet their demands, do it. But not because of them. Because of HIM :-)!!

Toxic Tuesday: Narcissistic Parents Part 2

November 4, 2014 – Joy S. Well, happy readers, thank you again to Carolyn for allowing me to rejoin you for Part 2 of Toxic Tuesday:  Narcissistic Personality Disordered Parent. In my last post, I promised to share strategies I’ve discovered for escaping unforgiveness toward a NPD parent.  Lest you think that I was “spiritual”Continue reading “Toxic Tuesday: Narcissistic Parents Part 2”

Toxic Tuesday: ‘Christian’ Swingin’ Wife Swapping

Swingin’ for Jesus? “Christian” Couple swaps partners as “ministry”
This is so far out there it’s difficult to believe. But I do believe it!

Teach Your Daughters to Fear God, Not Men!

A friend sent me this article via Facebook. This is an excellent read, recommended by Kirk Cameron, and I especially appreciate the call to the church to get involved when women are in these types of relationships. Great food for thought and more importantly for action. I’ll be re-reading and praying about this. Click here toContinue reading “Teach Your Daughters to Fear God, Not Men!”

Toxic Tuesday: Underage House Guests, Technology and How I Protect My Kids

Laptops, phones, iPads, iPods and MP3s all stay on the hospitality bar until young guests are through visiting our home.

Toxic Tuesday: 8 Signs Of A Toxic Relationship

Toxic relationships abound in our ever increasing narcissistic society. How is a person to know if their boyfriend or girlfriend has emotionally abusive tendencies or worse; a personality disorder? If you are married and find you are in this type of relationship you will most likely need professional and spiritual help for navigating your pathContinue reading “Toxic Tuesday: 8 Signs Of A Toxic Relationship”

5 (More) Things You Should Never Say to an Abuse Survivor

Check out Andrew Peterson’s song, AFTER THE LAST TEAR FALLS

21 Things NOT to Say to an Abuse Survivor and Leadership Journal’s Lack of Discernment

After many caring and concerned readers made comments asking Leadership Journal to remove the post, (many whose comments LJ removed) and many more readers who began a #TakeDownThatPost campaign; LJ decided to remove the post. One of the most compelling letters showing LJ their lapse of judgment for posting the article was submitted by Mary DeMuth.

Pedophile or Molester? *Content Warning

Thank you for going with me before the throne of God with this prayer request. Here are more scriptures to pray for young children taking the witness stand against a pastor accused of child victimization.

Introducing Mr. Fatal Self-Love

Allow me to introduce you to Mr. Malignant Self-Love:

Toxic Tuesday: Dangerous and Difficult to Identify

Those with N.P.D. believe they are special, superior and entitled making them above the law, social norms, moral law and scriptural teachings. Please understand they believe all of these to be true, good and beneficial for common people; just not for themselves due to their specialness.

Toxic Tuesday: Moms’ Night Out—You Need to Laugh

I had not experienced such unbridled laughter since reading the Pioneer Woman’s, All I Wanted Was a Doughnut.

I thought the movie would strictly be a ‘Chick-Flick’ but no; I heard and saw men laughing as uncontrollably as me.

Toxic Tuesday: A Real Life Toxic Letter

To make matters worse the wife had to listen to this “Value Statement” be read from the pulpit as an apology to her, all the while knowing it was insincere, for a show, and to gain exaltation for being ‘real’, ‘transparent’ and ‘humble’. Though she knew something was very wrong she was still clueless to the demons lurking in the shadows. Only the love of family, the help of caring friends, Bible study, prayer, fasting and time would eventually reveal the depth of her husband’s depravity.

Toxic Tuesday: Attack of the Toddler Trapped in an Adult Body

This is a scripture one of my dear friends prayed over me when I was going through a time of attack. Pray it out loud over your own life. Draw strength from God’s word and invite His power to save you and heal you. His word is always timely, applicable, healing and powerful; it’s who He is!

Toxic Tuesday: DEAD END

Every time I came to road block, while attempting to help this person, I looked for a detour and took it. This circumstance defied my spiritual convictions, resolve and long-term goals. I was confident erring on the side of faith would turn out better than erring on the side of easy. I knew God had made provision for me to leave this relationship but I wanted to find healing for this person for multiple reasons.

Toxic Tuesday: Narcissistic Fact and Fiction

The top three professions for individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are actors/entertainers, psychologists and pastors (in no particular order). There is also a huge number with N.P.D. in politics.

Toxic Tuesday: Tasers and Tea

Why do men do this? Answer:
What type of victim are they looking for?
What do they want to avoid?
What can children, young adults and women do who find themselves in an attempted abduction?
Better yet, how can they avoid being the target of abduction?

Toxic Tuesday: It is Real You are Write

We find precedence throughout scripture for confrontation as a means to help, discipline and show good will. God uses people to do this.

Toxic Tuesday: Do Not Underestimate the Power in Numbers

Toxic Tuesday: Do Not Underestimate the Power in Numbers Community: You need it. Hopefully you have a church home you pour your life into and of which you enjoy the benefits of learning, praising, praying, serving, friendship, encouragement and help when needed. Hebrews 10:22-25 The Message (MSG) “So let’s do it—full of belief, confident that we’re presentable insideContinue reading “Toxic Tuesday: Do Not Underestimate the Power in Numbers”

What Would Jesus Do in a Toxic Relationship?

At times I felt as though God held my hand as I skimmed the surface of hell begging and pleading with my person to leave their sin, make things right, do the hard thing, seek help, choose their family and their God; not their messed up life and their vocation.

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